How to get along with your boss—The Insider’s Guide

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How to get along with your boss—The Insider’s Guide

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Understand, the fact that your boss, like yourself, is a human

being. Like everyone else, bosses come in all shapes and sizes.

Like you, he has ambitions, aspirations, and dreams. Some he

will achieve, others he won’t. Some bosses are good managers,

others bad, but most fall somewhere in the middle range.

Unless you’re working for a very small company, your boss

probably has superiors of his own – that no doubt can, and do,

drive him crazy at times. What it boils down to more than

anything else is, how well you and your boss can deal with the

emotional roller coaster of everyday life, and perhaps most

importantly, how each of you view your job.

To get along with you boss, or other people for that matter, you

have to know how to understand and react to personality traits,

get inside your boss’s head. In short, you need to develop your

human relations skills.

This does not mean becoming a “”yes” man and always siding with

your boss no matter how dumb a mistake he makes, or how big a

fool he makes of himself. Your boss may appreciate such blind

devotion, but unless you are willing to drop anchor and never

advance up the corporate ladder, you also need to know when to

put some distance between you immediate supervisor, and the

powers that be, because if your boss really goofs-up – you may

be shown the door at the same time your boss is!

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Back to getting along with the boss, you of course need to get

on and stay on his “good side,” in short become a team player

That means becoming the type of an employee everyone would like

to have work for them. Someone with a positive outlook, someone

who’s also friendly, loyal, tolerant, compassionate,

understanding, courteous and supportive. Someone who can take,

and follow orders. Someone who can get the job done. Someone who

knows when to speak-up, and when to keep his mouth shut.

Regardless of what you think of your boss, the first thing you

should learn, is his style of supervising. The two extremes of

management style, are a boss who enjoys playing the part of a

military leader, where he, or she barks orders that must be

followed exactly without question, or the boss who maintains a

very low profile, giving employees broad guidelines and then

disappearing. Fortunately, most bosses fall somewhere in between

the two extremes, or little actual work would ever get done!

If you have the type of personality that demands you must have

very specific orders or you’re “afraid you won’t do it right,”

you better have a boss who is willing to spend the time watching

your every step.

On the other hand, if you must be left to your own devices to

make things work to get the job done and resent the boss looking

over your shoulder or constantly “picking on you,” you better

have the type of boss who is willing to give you enough room to

do your own thing.

Either way, if you are stuck with the “wrong kind” of boss it

will be a real source of irritation that frequently ends in you

not seeing eye to eye with your supervisor.

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If you can’t change, or at least try, you would be better off

finding employment elsewhere – because the boss isn’t going to

change his management style to please you!

It also pays dividends to learn what your boss likes and

dislikes, and then adapt what you do to suit his personality and

management style. All bosses expect their workers to know how to

do their job, and to get it do it correctly, and on time, but

problems are bound to come up in any business. One thing that

can really “set off” your boss is not handling problems like “he

thinks” they should be handled.

Remember, he’s the boss, so be sure to learn how he wants you to

communicate problems. Does he prefer you put it in writing,

arrange a meeting, or just drop-in his office anytime you have a

question? Use common sense. If the boss is in a bad mood, or

otherwise having a bad day, he’s probably not in the proper

frame of mind to listen to any new suggestions, or for you to

ask to go home early, take a day off, or get a raise.

Besides consideration for the boss’s mood, and receptiveness on

any particular day to listen to new ideas, the employee who

thinks he has a good idea for changing an operating procedure,

should always re-think his idea through from every angle before

presenting it to the boss.

You should give your boss the feeling of confidence that you’re

a team player and you want to be the one he or she can depend on

to make his or her job easier. You should try to figure out what

your boss’s goals are, then help him to reach those goals

through your contributions as a good employee.

Basically, the good employee is the one who is ready and in the

mood to go to work at the designated time.

– A good employee knows his job, inside and out, and if faced with

something new, puts in the necessary time on his own, to try and

figure things out, then presents options to the boss, who

decides if any changes in policy or procedures are needed.

– A good employee doesn’t take time off except for real illness or

emergencies. He’s the one who does his work, gets the job done,

and is proud of his contribution to the overall success of the

company he works for. He’s one who’s ready to help a fellow

employee or newcomer without having to be asked to do so.

– A good employee lets the boss know that he’s completed his work,

and is free to assist him or her with special projects. He’s the

one who doesn’t camp out at the water cooler or coffee machine

engaging his fellow workers in idle gossip. He’s the one who

sets up his work area either for the person on the next shift,

or so that he’ll be ale to go right to work when he comes in the

next day.

All of these things and more, are the basic ingredients to the

definition of a good employee, and being a good employee is the

best way of getting along with the boss! The practice of good

human relations and displaying the virtues of the ideal

employee, requires the constant use of one’s common sense for

ultimate success. On needs to be aware of the boss’s

sensitivities, and eccentricities. If he bristles at any hint of

criticism of how he does things, he needs a subordinate who’ll

be willing to work under less then ideal conditions.

So, the bottom-line to getting along with any boss is first be a

good employee yourself. Master human relations. Understand that

your boss is a human being just like yourself – with a job to

do, and bosses of his own to answer to. So do everything you can

to make his or her job easier. It will go a long way to making

your job easier and having a good working relationship with the

boss!

If you can master the all important “people skills,” someday you

may enjoy the power and prestige of being the boss, and enjoying

all the perks and other trappings of being in charge!

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How to Have Power over Others

If power begins in controlling something, then are we powerless prior to controlling?

Yes and no.

We have potential, which is a power in itself, but unused and undirected potential is NOTHING.

Are we powerless prior to controlling?

I would say we are not powerless, but ignorant (Which is a version of powerlessness, I guess.)

We don’t know that we have power and don’t know to know to test it.

The end of all powerlessness begins with awareness.

A Samurai Warrior would learn this by practicing a meditation of sitting on the top of a mountain with his arm extended and sword pointing skyward in a position ready to fall. He would meditate on that fleeting moment when a balanced piece of metal would turn into an unpredictable falling/killing weapon. His awareness was on the potential of the weapon. When he learned that then he could study the application of it’s power.

What is power?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is power like?

How great is power?

Where is power now?

To Know. To Will. To Dare. To Keep Silent.

These were the powers of the Sphinx and they remain dormant in all of us to one degree or another.

You don’t know what you don’t know. Thus you must seek knowledge in whatever realm you wish to control.

You must Will and Dare to use that knowledge.

To keep silent. This is where power turns to craft. It is the most subtle application of power. So subtle it may seem that things are all happening in your favor when in fact they happen by your design.

A bolder resting precariously on a cliff, a bow string pulled tight, these have a quality of potential force, What the Chinese strategist, Sun Tsu, called “shih”. With just the right action and the force is unleashed.

The silent art of power and control is to see the potential force in everything and arrange it so that, if released, it works in your favor.

The keys to this power are first to know what you want far into the future and to know it in rich and glorious detail. The next step is to develop a precise and detailed plan to your goal and to meditate upon it day in and day out. By having this constantly on your mind you will function with the greatest efficiency toward your goal.

You will see the world about and know “This action will lead me to my goal. This action will lead me nowhere.”

This task that is unnatural for most of us because of our natural tendency to focus on the thoughts of the present and to respond to the urgencies at hand. To master this skill we must alter our thinking and see every action that we perform as an act of manipulating “shih”.

To do this is the height of Sphinx-like power and makes mere men to seem magical as if they controlled the forces of nature.